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31 Ways to Rekindle the Fire and Keep Passion Alive
by Rachel Keller
Did you know that spending time in a long-term loving relationship can help you have a healthier life? (According to realage.com, a healthy relationship can make your real age as much as six and half years younger.) The benefits of a loving relationship make it worth the effort to rekindle the spark that will ignite the blaze of love in your heart. A sure way to increase your love for something or someone, is to invest time in that thing or person. Start doing special deeds of kindness for someone and you will find that your love increases for that person because feelings of love come with the functions of love. If your passion is waning or you want to increase your love for your spouse, try some of these ideas:
Romantic Ideas
Fun Ideas Yes, your marriage can be fun, but you may have to work at making it fun.
Dating Again?
Little Things
Make up your mind that you will love your spouse. Love is a mental attitude and not a feeling. It is the unselfish self-sacrificial desire to meet the needs of the cherished object. If you think it's possible to love your spouse too much, you probably haven't loved her/him enough.
Copyright Rachel Keller 2001 Rachel Keller Bio:
Rachel Keller is an active home schooling mom of three young sons. She enjoys running, aerobics, strength training, and flexibility exercises. Since the fall, she has regularly raced, placing in the top three for her age category in over half the races. A freelance writer, her writings have been published on various web sites and ezines. Rachel has a bachelor's degree in elementary education and a master's degree in special education. Rachel manages two e-zines and two web sites: Rachel's Writing (http://www.rachelkeller.com) and Time For Fitness (http://www.timeforfitness.com).
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Talking About Money
by Bethanny Davis
Since the number one thing couples argue about is money, it makes sense to talk about it before the fighting starts. It's important to know how each of you think about and spend your money, and whether you are in agreement about how the household expenses should be handled.
There are two basic money personalities: spender and saver. The spender usually enjoys shopping and may not really pay attention to how much he or she spends. He may amass huge amounts of credit card debt without realizing how high it is getting.
The saver is usually cautious. He or she puts money away for a "rainy day." She probably has a budget and sticks to it. She may have money for savings and investments taken right out of her check or bank account so that she isn't tempted to use the money for something else.
Sit down with your partner and try to figure out which description most closely fits each of you. Then consider how each of you might react to one another's way of handling money. Here are some typical scenarios.
If both of you are spenders, you may not think about how much you are spending until you see the balances on your credit cards rise to astonishing heights. Unfortunately, high credit card debts are often difficult to pay off and may lead to huge arguments, especially once you reach your limit and can no longer charge. Also, if you have too many credit card payments, it can put a strain on your relationship both emotionally and financially if either of you lose work for even a short period of time.
If one of you is a spender and the other a saver, the saver may question many of the spender's purchases, pointing out that they are either unnecessary or over-priced. On the other side, the spender may want to spend money that the saver has tucked away. Often, the saver needs this money to feel secure, so being pressured to spend it on something she doesn't feel is necessary can be very stressful for her.
If both of you are savers, you probably have a comfortable stash set aside in case of emergency, and you don't touch it. You are probably both very frugal and careful with your money. However, you may both have a tendency to be over-critical of one another's purchases.
After you determine what type of money personality you have and recognize the areas that are most likely to cause problems for you in the future, try to come up with a plan to handle those areas. For example, you might want to set a certain amount of money that each partner is allowed to spend without being having to answer to the other or open separate accounts for each of you, along with a joint account for household expenses.
Be open with your partner about how you handle your money and how you feel about the way he or she handles it, but without being confrontational. If you work together to try to find a solution when difficulties arise rather than resorting to arguments, you may find after awhile that money is no longer a major source of stress for your relationship.
Copyright Bethany Davis 2001
About the author:
Bethanny Davis is a full-time freelance writer who writes about
relationships, parenting and personal finance. More of her relationship
articles can be found at http://allaboutrelationships.com.
Also be sure to visit Bethanny Davis' website here: http://writergirl.stormloader.com.
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